One of the biggest triggers for my anxiety used to be scrolling through LinkedIn.

Especially during transitions—after a layoff, or when I wasn’t sure what I wanted next.

I’d open the app for “inspiration” and walk away feeling behind. Confused. Inadequate.

Here’s what I eventually realized:

I wasn’t comparing myself to one person.

I was comparing myself to ten different people at once.

The Comparison Trap: You vs. Everyone

One post would show someone launching their new coaching business, helping people navigate career transitions.

Another post would be someone releasing a brand new course on marketing for startups—beautifully branded, 100+ signups in the first week.

Then someone else would get promoted to Director or VP, and I’d start wondering if I made the wrong decisions by leaving that world behind.

Each of these people was doing one thing.

But my brain? It was trying to do all of them.

At once.

That’s when it hit me:

Am I expecting myself to split into multiple people and master every version of success I see online?

It sounds ridiculous when you say it out loud.

But so many of us do this without realizing.

Regrounding in Your Path

When I catch myself spiraling, these are the questions that bring me back:

1. What is my actual vision of success?

Not the one I absorbed from LinkedIn.

Not the one that looks shiny in someone else’s story.

The one that’s mine.

For me, it’s about freedom—over my time, my location, my finances.

It’s about integrating the worlds of tech, psychology, and healing.

It’s not flashy, but it’s meaningful.

And it’s enough.

2. What’s one thing I can do this month to move closer to that vision?

You don’t need a 5-year plan.

Just the next step.

Something small, clear, and doable that feels aligned.

Sometimes the path to your vision isn’t linear—it’s experimental.

You try. You adjust. You learn. You keep going.

Refocusing Your Attention

Instead of chasing 10 different dreams that aren’t yours, shift your focus inward:

• Celebrate your growth: “I became a coach this year. People are getting results. That means something.”
• Remember what season you’re in: If you’re new to something—whether it’s coaching, entrepreneurship, or freelancing—of course, it feels awkward. You’re like a baby learning to swim. It’s terrifying. It’s exciting. And it’s not the time to compare yourself to people who’ve been swimming laps for a decade.
• Reflect on your past with honesty: Sit down and ask: What worked? What didn’t? Where did I feel drained? Where did I feel alive? What do I want to bring forward—and what do I need to leave behind?

This is how you stay grounded in your real path.

Not the path of everyone else.

Not the highlight reels.

Yours.

Final Reminder

You don’t need to be everything at once.

You don’t need to mimic every success story you see.

You just need to know where you’re going—and take one steady step at a time.

Because real transformation—the kind that doesn’t burn you out—happens when you stop chasing and start choosing.

Deliberately. Intentionally. Softly.

On your own timeline.