Clarity is the most important thing.

Not passion. Not purpose.

Clarity.

Clarity is the quiet undercurrent that makes decision-making feel natural. It’s what brings focus to the fog.

Without it, we jump from thing to thing—chasing passions, waiting for signs, hoping for purpose to land in our lap.

But the purpose doesn’t land.

You have to start walking.

Here’s a process I return to when I feel lost, unsure, or like everything’s floating.

Step 1: Rapid Answers (10 minutes)

Without overthinking, answer these two questions fast:

• If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing (for life and work)?
• What will I most regret not doing at the end of my life?

Don’t censor yourself. Just write.

This is not about strategy—it’s about truth. The truth beneath the noise.

These questions bypass your logic and speak to something deeper.

Step 2: My Life Is Ideal When… (1 hour)

Write 1–3 sentences for each of the categories below, starting with the phrase:

“My life is ideal when…”

• Health
• Purpose / Work
• Environment / Home
• Relationships / Community
• Fun / Hobbies
• Education
• Finances

Keep the timeline close. Think 2–5 years—not 20.

Clarity doesn’t live in the far-off future. It lives in your next few steps.

Examples:

• My life is ideal when I live in a bright space with windows and quiet mornings.
• My life is ideal when I spend 4 hours a day creating, teaching, or guiding.
• My life is ideal when my work supports wellness and education through content, coaching, and design.

➡️ Get specific. Feel it.

Step 3: Explore Tangible Options (1 hour)

Now go back to Step 2 and ask:

What career or path supports this life?

Write down 2–5 options for 2024. Realistic ones.

Examples:

• Founding engineer
• Startup operator
• Indie hacker
• Head of content at a wellness company
• YouTube creator + coaching on the side

Once you’ve listed your options, cross-reference each one with the “ideal life” you outlined.

How do they align?

What would you have to compromise or trade off?

Which one gets you closer—not to status, but to your values?

Make a mini-chart if you need to. Don’t skip this step.

What I’ve Learned About Purpose

We’ve been taught to look for purpose in the constructs we know—job titles, career paths, social labels.

But purpose isn’t a noun. It’s not an identity.

It’s something you become over time. Something you feel through action. Something that matures with you.

And your early work?

It won’t feel profound.

But it will give you data.

You are like a product.

You put out the first version of yourself, refine it, see what works, and test again. You iterate your way into alignment.

You don’t find purpose by overthinking.

You find it by living.

By noticing what feels right, and doing more of it.

Other Notes I Come Back To Often:

• Your job is not your purpose. Don’t confuse the delivery system with the message.
• There is no “dream job.” Especially not when the container isn’t built for you.
• Do what you love—but not just in someone else’s box. Not when it’s love for them, not you.
• Our generation knows we are disposable. There’s no loyalty in companies. You are your own stability.
• The hybrid life is the new life. Your work can be many things across a lifetime.
• You will come out of your cocoon when you are ready. The pressure to have it all figured out is not helping you.
• Your purpose is not a role. It’s the way you show up in everything.

Questions to Sit With:

• What are you curious about—obsessively so?
• What problems in the world make you want to help?
• What are you naturally gifted at?
• Can you get paid to do it in some way, someday?
• If not, can it still be worth doing?

Final Thought

You don’t need to do it all now.

You just need to take the next honest step.

You’re not lost.

You’re just being reshaped.

And the real journey is not to find your purpose.

It’s to become it.