Love Is the Way: Rewriting Old Patterns and Choosing Something New

Blocks Aren’t Blocks—They’re Pauses

Sometimes we feel blocked in love.

But I don’t see it as a block.

I see it as a momentary pause.

A pause that allows us to go inward,

To get uncomfortable,

To ask hard questions about who we want to be and where we want to go.

Because sometimes, we’ve built a way of life that no longer fits us.

And we’re hungry—starving—for something else.

This pause is the invitation.

Fear. Lust. And Then… Love.

For a long time, I thought there were only two ways to live.

Fear—or joy and excitement.

I’d flip between the two.

One day chasing the thrill—skydiving, new countries, new people, new stories.

The next day, caught in fear—fear of failure, fear of heartbreak, fear I couldn’t trust again.

I thought love had to come through those highs.

Or it had to come through pain.

But now I see there’s a third way.

Not fear. Not lust.

But something softer. Truer.

A love that is peaceful, supported, passionate, and balanced.

A love that exists on all four levels—spiritual, physical, emotional, and intellectual.

What Kind of Love Will You Choose?

If you say you want a partner… if you say you want to have kids…

Ask yourself: What kind of love do you want to bring that child into?

Do you want to build a life from transactional love?

From lust?

Or from unconditional love?

Because how you do anything… is how you do everything.

This Is a Collective Shift

I’ve had this same conversation with five people recently.

People from all walks of life—spiritual seekers, tech entrepreneurs.

They all said some version of this:

“I can’t change everything that’s happening in the world…

But I can change how I show up.”

That’s what this moment is.

The world is dividing—darkness, light.

Systems are collapsing.

Relationships are crumbling.

And people are waking up.

They’re gathering.

Choosing to live differently.

To love differently.

To fill their cup and be with others who do the same.

First the Inner Shift. Then the Outer Love.

You can’t attract unconditional love until you start with yourself.

That means loving yourself for all of it:

Your past, your mistakes, your patterns.

Letting go of trauma.

Cutting energetic cords.

Saying: “I’m new. I’m only accepting new kinds of connection.”

I had to ask:

Why were some of my relationships one-sided?

Why did I love too much? Why did I criticize too much?

Why did I abandon myself, and then wonder why others did too?

I’ve been on every end of the spectrum—

The pleaser, the lover, the one who gave too much, the one who shut down.

And it all brought me here.

To this question:

Who do I truly want to accept in love?

Who do I want to build a life with?

Choosing a New Pattern Means Saying No to the Old

This shift isn’t easy.

It means saying no to an old version of yourself.

An old way of loving.

An old story about what love has to look like.

But if you don’t say no… You never make room for yes.

What Science Says: Love Has Energy

And science agrees—love has energy.

HeartMath has shown that when we feel love, our heart’s electromagnetic field becomes more coherent, and that field impacts the emotional state of people around us.

Mirror neurons reflect the energy we bring into the room.

When you show up with love, people mirror that back.

Dr. Emoto’s water experiments found that even the structure of water responds to love, gratitude, and intention, proving that energy changes matter.

Loving-Kindness Meditation studies show that practicing love and compassion increases your happiness, but also strengthens your sense of connection to others, even strangers.

Neuroscience tells us we can rewire our brains toward love.

Through compassion practices, we change our neural pathways, creating a natural state of radiance that others feel.

So yes—love has energy.

And how you show up matters.

There’s Always a Reward for Showing Up in Love

Let me give you an example.

I was flying from Los Angeles to Toronto.

I had already paid for my bags, but the airline didn’t have them in their system.

None of my cards were working at the terminal.

The whole thing was taking forever.

And I heard a voice:

“You have a choice. How do you want to show up?”

So I grounded myself.

Planted my feet.

Closed my eyes.

And just felt peace.

Felt light.

Felt love toward this person trying to help me.

And a few minutes later, he said, “Miss,”

and handed me a business class ticket.

Free wine, extra legroom, food, peace.

It wasn’t about the seat.

It was about the shift.

It was the universe saying—yes, this is how we do it now.

That’s what love can feel like.

This Is the Work

These blocks, this confusion, this freeze you might feel in love—it’s not wasted time.

It’s part of the transformation.

It’s your first-class ticket…

But you have to be willing to sit through the gate delay.

To choose peace in the moment of discomfort.

To radiate love, even when you’re still figuring it out.

That’s when it comes back to you.

What You Reflect Is What You Receive

Love is a vibration.

It’s not just a feeling.

It’s a way of showing up.

And when you radiate that energy—

You shift everything around you.

You become the mirror that reflects love into your relationships, your community, and your future.

And that’s how the new world is built.

One person at a time.

One pattern at a time.

One choice at a time.

Let me know when you’re ready to choose.

Because I know this path.

And it leads somewhere beautiful.

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