Over the years, I’ve developed a simple way of making aligned decisions, especially when I’m stuck or overwhelmed.

I call it The Rule of 3s.

It’s how I check in with my mind, my heart, and my actions.

It’s how I ask whether something serves not just me, but also others and the greater good.

And it’s how I stop spinning and start moving.

Mind + Heart + Action

Most decisions for me start in the mind.

Then they move through the heart.

And finally, they become real through action.

Each part plays a different role. The mind is logical.

The heart brings honesty.

Action brings clarity.

But it doesn’t stop there.

At the same time, I ask:

Does this serve me?

Does it serve others?

Does it serve something bigger than me?

If the answer is yes across the board, I move forward.

If not, I pause and rework it until it’s aligned.

Why We Get Stuck (And How This Helps)

I’ve noticed that most people get stuck in one of these places:

• Mind: You overthink, spiral in strategy, and never act.
• Heart: You feel everything, wait for signs, and don’t move.
• Action: You do a lot, but it’s all driven by ego or validation.

The Rule of 3s helps me bring them together.

So I’m not just reacting or rushing or avoiding.

I’m moving forward from a grounded place—with a full-body yes.

Start With the Mind (Logic & Strategy)

I always start by checking in with the mind, just the practical stuff.

What’s real? What do I know? What are the risks?

This helps me zoom out and look at the decision objectively.

I ask myself:

• What’s the most practical next step?
• What do I already know from experience?
• What are the risks or tradeoffs?

A real example from my life:

When I started shifting from tech into wellness, I didn’t just leap blindly.

I looked at market trends, the wellness boom, my background at Meta, and Shopify.

I thought: You’ve got the foundation. This makes sense.

My mind was clear. But that wasn’t enough.

Then, I Refine with the Heart (Emotion & Intuition)

Next, I check in with how I actually feel.

Not what I should do—but what feels true.

Because I’ve made so many decisions that looked great on paper but drained me in real life.

I ask:

• Am I excited—or am I forcing this?
• Does this decision feel honest?
• Am I expanding or contracting?

When I worked on youth safety at Meta,

My heart was in it.

The work felt urgent. It aligned with my values.

That was a signal to keep going.

And I’ve learned—if something consistently drains you, it’s not for you.

No matter how logical it looks.

Align With Action (Surrender & Movement)

This is where most people stop.

They think, they feel—but they don’t move.

And I get it.

I’ve sat on ideas for months, waiting for clarity, waiting for the right moment.

But clarity doesn’t come from waiting. It comes from doing.

Now I ask:

• What’s one small thing I can do right now?
• How can I let go of needing to know the whole plan?
• What happens if I just start?

One day, I just hit publish on a post I’d been thinking about for weeks.

That post led to new clients.

New clarity. New conversations.

All because I moved.

This Isn’t Just a Mindset. It’s Backed by Wisdom and Science.

Across every tradition I’ve studied, this pattern shows up.

• In Taoism, it’s Wu Wei—effortless action that flows from alignment.
• In Buddhism, it’s right thought, right intention, right action.
• In Vedic teachings, it’s your dharma—your purpose—fulfilled through both inner clarity and external movement.

Science agrees too:

• Neuroscience shows we make better decisions when logic and emotion are integrated.
• Somatic psychology reminds us that the body often knows before the brain does.
• And flow research proves that action, not overthinking, is what gets us unstuck.

Good Decisions Don’t Just Serve You

Here’s something I live by:

If a decision only benefits me, it’s not complete.

So I always ask:

• Does this align with what I want and need?
• Does it support or uplift others?
• Does it contribute to something bigger than me?

If it doesn’t check all three, I pause and look again.

When You’re at a Crossroads, Ask This:

Instead of spinning or spiraling, try this simple check-in:

• What does my mind say?
• What does my heart feel?
• What’s one small action I can take right now?

And then take the step.

Not because you’re sure.

But because movement is how clarity finds you.

Final Thoughts

I don’t need things to be perfect before I start.

I just need to feel the alignment.

The mind gives me structure.

The heart gives me truth.

And action gives me momentum.

This Rule of 3s is how I’ve built everything.

Every career shift. Every product I’ve launched. Every relationship I’ve deepened.

Start with your mind.

Check in with your heart.

And then take the next small step.

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